Wednesday, July 31, 2013

“How to to talk to your daughter about her body”

Seeing as I have two girls, I thought this article was bang-on, on how I see raising a child (especially a girl) in the healthiest way.

It has always alarmed me at how many people put such emphasis on someone’s body image - either through a comment made about a stranger, or a comment made about one’s self.  I, myself, have never and would never look at anyone and think to myself, “wow, they need to lose weight,” or “how can that person be eating those fries or candy, no wonder they are overweight.”  Statements like these make me cringe; in the same way the word “fat” makes me cringe.  In fact, I have banned this word and classify it as a swear word in our house.

Instead of looking at a potentially overweight person eating a French fry and thinking they shouldn’t be doing that; I don’t even notice their body or what they are eating; I see a person smiling, or having a good time, loving life and enjoying it.  If someone is happy, their life is fulfilled, at least to a healthy degree.  If that person is potentially shortening their lifespan a few years because they may have a few extra pounds or are living a not-so-healthy lifestyle, so what.  If that person’s so-called “shortened life” is a happy one, why does it matter?  They are choosing to live that way.  They are happy.  It’s no one’s place to be putting judgment on that person.  There’s a good chance they are enjoying life more than the person placing judgment!

Although I will always show and give our daughters a healthy lifestyle that includes sport and healthy eating, that will never be the emphasis or focus; my goal as a mother is to raise my kids to be happy, to be kind to others, and above all else, love themselves.

Below is the article I am referring to:

How to Talk to your Daughter about her Body

How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

http://hopeave.wordpress.com/2013/07/29/how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-her-body/

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Annika’s Big Hair Day!

Annika decided she didn’t want long hair anymore

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are you sure????!!!

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Yep!  She did it!

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Prettying things up

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I think she likes it :)

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Beautiful girl!

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Daddy likes it, too!

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♥ Annika is proudly donating her hair to “Locks of Love” – A foundation that provides human-hair wigs to children with cancer who have lost their hair during chemo/radiation therapy ♥

Monday, July 22, 2013

T.O. Weekend

This quite possibly was my most eventful weekend this year!  The chaos of Toronto can completely take over, making what would normally be a quiet little stroll or drive, a completely out-of-control, time-consuming craziness (especially with two little kids and no stroller).

I got to Toronto on Friday for some girlie time with friends for Corinne’s bachelorette day.  We went to Sugar Beach, learned how to dance on a bar to Coyote Ugly and went to a great bar downtown TO. 603405_10100609240674809_353906045_n

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Sugar Beach!  You would have no idea you were in the downtown core of TO.  Great spot!

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Coyote Ugly!

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Tattoo Rock Parlour

James and the girls, and grampie and auntie arrived Saturday morning.  We ventured through the craziness of downtown, had some lunch and later spent the evening down on the lakeshore.

The Toronto Triathlon Festival was the main reason for our trip.  LPC had 25 members racing, and took the overall team win!  Lots of great racing and many on the podium for their respective age groups.

High Park ended our weekend and back home to settle back in to the swing of things!

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High Park has a castle-like playground for kids!

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Yonge Street piggyback rides

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view from our room at the Intercontinental

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Swimming fun at the hotel pool :)

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Summer Heat!

I can’t get enough of this hot, hot weather we’re getting!  I will take extreme heat over bitter cold any day.  The girls and mavie, too, are soaking up the sun and keeping cool in the kiddy pool and sprinkler.  We have our own little summer oasis backyard :D

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Mavie loves to play soccer

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Sunday, July 14, 2013

Summer Dance Camp!

Annika learned some new dance steps and songs at dance camp last week.  She and her friends performed for us to close the week.  Thanks to Performance Dance for another awesome week of dance!

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Some acro to start!

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LAUNCH!!!!!!!!!!!

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The dancing begins :)

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Hugs for proud papa!

If You’re Happy and you know it Clap your Hands!

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Summertime Festivals

We brought the kids downtown to see Art on the Street.  Quebec Street in Guelph is completely shut down for the day and filled with hundreds of people.  The girls loved the kids art – got to make their very own buttons and paint some pictures and watch a live show.

Italian Festival was on this weekend today too so we stopped in for a bite to eat and played in the carnival for a while.  I put together a little video from the pics today, and you will hear the background song which is sung by the performer that we saw at Italian Fest.  Amazing voice!  Band name is Whitebrow, and song “Don’t Pass me By.”

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Jamie’s 3rd Birthday!! and James’ Rocks

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Cars Bouncy Castle!

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Jamie and his cousin Madison

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Yummy Hotdogs!!!

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Selena, Madison and Annika

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Cake!

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Can’t believe he’s already 3!  Love this little guy ♥

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Of course present time!!!!

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On our way to pick out rocks – we stopped by St. Jacob’s Market. 

Yes rocks….most would think “so what” ….not my husband!  They are one of his favourite things…

Here is what our new landscaping looks like – A big thanks to Canada Green Lawn Care (co-owned by a family friend and triathlete) for doing such a great job!

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                        Before and after

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One of the new granite rocks and you can see the new front patch with river rock and a granite rock James found near our house.

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Second granite rock

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These three pedestal rocks were shipped from Victoria, BC

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My favourite

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Moss rock

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Cool new accessories from nana and papa!  Grandparents are the best!!!

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Annika went on her very first long bike ride with Papa!  Biked 7.5 km through the streets and trails of Westminster!

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