Affording a stay-at-home mom
Since my husband is a numbers guy, I thought this article was very cute. All moms know what’s its like to wake up to immediate machine-mode, heads down and “get the work done” (as James likes to say!) You do the work without question, without hesitation, without expectation. Sometimes, at the end of a long day, it’s nice to have a little acknowledgement about the hurdles of the day’s work, but if not, guess what… you wake up and do it all again because that’s what your family needs.
Since I’m lucky enough to be running my own business from my home, I’ve had the best (and worst…)of both worlds – stay-at-home mom combined with working mom. Yes… some days do feel impossible – like I’m going to keel over at any moment – as if I’ve signed myself up for the impossible – but, I do it, not because I need acknowledgment or because I’m trying to prove some uppity point to someone; but because I love my kids and my family, and I will do whatever it takes to keep my house and family at its best.
I’m sure this article has attracted the big debate of stay-at-home moms versus working moms.. well, wanna know what I think? I believe each individual has his or her own set of unique qualities and whatever it is that person decides to do with those qualities is up to them.
Here’s the article!
He Can’t Afford For His Wife To Stay At Home Anymore. His Reason? Millions Of Moms Are SHOCKEDBy Emerald Pellot
Stay-at-home moms have got it tougher than most. Child rearing and managing a household is not a job for the faint-hearted.
I don’t know how many moms have told me that, while raising their kids is a wonderfully fulfilling job, it is also an often thankless job. There’s no clocking out. There’s no quarterly bonuses. There’s no end to the workload and no stats to gauge how well you are doing, and it hardly ever gets any easier — just ask this mom.
Yet being a stay-at-home mother or father is a huge privilege. Not everyone can afford to have only one parent go to work so that the other can focus on the home.
So when I heard one man wrote a letter about how he couldn’t afford for his wife to be a stay-at-home mom, I expected that reason would be that the family needed another source of income.
What I didn’t expect to hear was this: Steven Nelms says he can’t afford for his wife and mother of his child, Glory, to stay at home.
If more people thought this way, the world would be a mighty different place. What Steven Nelms has to say about his wife and all mothers is something everyone should hear.
Read excerpts from his letter below, and watch the video to get the full story!
Nelms wrote in We Are Glory, "I’ve had this thought in my head for a while now. I’ve been thinking that I can’t afford for my wife to be a Stay-At-Home Mom. Now, I don’t at all mean to offend anyone with this post. I just have to say that for me personally, I can’t afford it… I mean that I quite literally cannot afford my wife to be staying at home."
"My wife stays home and takes care of our son every single day. She changes his diapers, feeds him, plays with him, puts him down for his nap, and comforts him when he’s upset. And that’s just the bare minimum."
"I am in no way trying to simplify, objectify, or devalue the priceless love of a mother for her child. But let’s be real. Pay day feels good for a reason. Because you’re seeing your hard work appreciated in a tangible way that lets you 'treat yo self.' And this is exactly why I can’t afford my wife being a Stay-At-Home Mom. The national average weekly salary for a full-time nanny is $705. That’s $36,660 a year."
This is Nelms' break down of just some of his wife's duties.
- Cleaning Service: $50-100 per visit once a week = $5,200 a year.
- Personal Shopper: $65 per hour at 4 hours a week = $13,5250 a year.
- Chef: $240 a week = $12,480 a year.